So today, I had a day off. I thought this day would be great but it ended up being one of the worst days of my life.
It all started on Thursday night when I got an email from Jeremy’s ( Daniel’s younger bro) girlfriend. I don’t really know this girl.. In fact I don’t know her at all so I wondered what would make her want to even send me an email. I read the email and she stated that she needed some advice on how to talk to Jeremy and she thought I could help, since I was with his brother and Jeremy and Daniel act almost the same. So, I asked Daniel what I should do, because I really don’t like to get involved in their family drama. He said to email her back and see what was up. So I did. I got another email back later that night, saying that she wanted to talk to Jeremy about something but he always got quiet and didn’t talk to her. I wrote back and said that she just needed to give him some time and when he was ready to talk he would talk to her. Nothing bad at all. NOTHING! I felt bad, for talking about Jeremy behind his back and I was really torn if I should tell him that she even emailed me. So I went to bed
I got up the next morning ( Friday) still torn on what to do. I asked Daniel and he didn’t really give me any advice on it. So I called Daniel’s mom and asked her advice. She said that I should sit down and talk to Jeremy about the whole situation. I agreed. So I texted him and said that we needed to sit down and talk and he needed to give me a time that was good for him to talk. I got a text back from him, asking what he did wrong. I told him nothing was wrong we just needed to talk and that it wasn’t anything bad. I suppose this is where the day began to go downhill.
Obviously, after that text, Jeremy became worried. why? I have no idea especially when I said it was nothing big. He gets out of school, goes home and asks his mom if she knew of anything wrong. She asked how he knew and he said that I had texted him about it. She told him that it was between me and him– she should have left it there. Especially since she said I needed to talk to him. SHE DIDN’T! She began to lecture him about life and how he should keep his friends close and his enemies closer. So at this point he gets upset. I have no idea what is going on at this point. He gets on skype and is mad at me. So of course, I am worried because it all of a sudden got blown way of proportion over nothing. So I tell him I am coming over to talk to him.
I rush over there and talk to him and tell him that the only reason I was telling him is because I didn’t want to betray his trust and if he wanted me to not talk to her, I did respect that. Nothing bad at all. Jeremy said he understood and was just worried at school. I apologized and told him that that was not my intent at all to make him mad/worried/irritated. I told him I just didn’t want to see him get hurt and I definitely didn’t want him to get hurt because of me. I hadn’t seen his mom at this point. so Jeremy tells me he is okay about it and is not mad. He just didn’t understand why his mom blew up on him. I didn’t either. So I think everything is okay; he is not mad at me, nothing. At that moment, his mom comes in and asks if I had gotten anything out of him. I wasn’t looking for any type of answer out of him or what I was trying to get out of him. I told her I talked to him and that he understood where I was coming from. She looks at me and then says, ” Oh by the way, do me a favor and don’t text him in school. Common sense would have told you that.” Then she just storms out. At that point, I felt like complete shit. I thought I was trying to be nice and help but obviously, I was just being a stupid jerk who should have never meddled in the first place. I told Jeremy, on that note, I needed to leave because I was about to cry ( I didn’t tell him about the crying part). I walked out of the house, got in my car, drove off and broke out into tears.
I came home crying. Daniel happened to be home and he asked me what was wrong. I told him and he just said that his mom is a royal B. He told me I knew how she was and I shouldn’t let it get to me, but it did. It really did. It’s like she took everything about me and just made me feel like the smallest piece of crap imaginable. It just makes me feel like no matter how hard I try to be the good guy, I end up screwing something up and making it all crap. I dunno. I have been crying all night… I am still crying about it.
I told Daniel, I was done. With her racist comments and now this. I was completely done. I told him I will/would no longer get involved with anything with this family. I said I would block Jeremy from skype and he could go over to his mom’s house on his own, because I just can’t take it anymore. Daniel told me I should not punish the kids because his mom is so crazy. But the thing is, they live over there. I would just rather not associate myself with his family at all. I’m sure I’m wrong about it, like everything…. I am just so broken…..
u need to fly daniel’s mom up here, and i’ll drop her off in the middle of Detroit, she’ll stop her raciest comments. as far as Jeremy goes, u should have just told him that his gf emaild u and what she said. and then told him that u just thought he should know. dont ever tell a guy “we need to talk” it freaks them out.
u shouldnt have anything to do with dan’s mom. and he should grow a pair and defend u. i think talkin to kids is ok, just leave her outta it. if she has anything to say to u, she can talk to dan. leave it at that. and if dan doesnt like it, tell him to suck an egg. ur mom doesnt say nasty things bout white ppl to him, so his mom has no right.
I think that you shouldn’t have called his mom at all about Jeremy, and after Jeremy got out of school just called him and left his mom out of it. I don’t think you should block him from Skype, he was probably worried it was something a lot worse than it was. I would block Daniel’s mother from all forms of communication with you, etc. And to tell you the truth I don’t know why you still talked to her after the last time she hurt your feelings. She’s a b.
As for Jeremy’s gf, she’s probably inexperienced in the dating field. I say this because, about half of my boyfriends were pretty quiet. But it took me a while to understand that boys don’t talk about the things we want them to and they stay quiet about a lot of things we don’t want them to. Sometimes they have no clue something is wrong, and sometimes something is wrong and they need a little time to work through it. Basically I think that’s what the girl needed to hear. Also, I don’t think you were talking behind Jeremy’s back by giving her advice. And, if someone accused you of that, you have a paper trail called email.
Sorry to make this so longwinded.